There isn’t a single soul on earth who hasn’t tasted the poison of failure in one way or another. Soaring goals in life often create circumstances in life when we feel that we aren’t living up to the mark and expectations.
To make things worse we live in the society which only strengthens this feeling from time to time. Most of the people won't admit the fact but, for them success comes only in forms of material possessions be it a car, house, some expensive goody etc.
It's a shame that we are all victims of this type of outlook and instead of re-enforcing our perspective of life we only pass these values to our own younger generations.
There is no deny to the fact that we also understand that material possessions have a very little or nothing to do with the we being successful in life but understanding this only intellectually (a fun exercise for brain) and understanding this actually as we understand that we are hungry or our body is in pain are two different things entirely.
Our eyes elude the true meaning of the success, When we someone with a big house, a big car or when we see that our friends are more influential than our interpretation of the success gets twisted. But no matter on what fancy toys your measure of success depends there is always someone with fancier toys. The problem is not the toys but us believing that these toys indicate the true success.
Real success is simple when you see who you are and how far in the life you have come despite all the odds and hardships in your life. If you are worrying that you are not as successful as you have imagined yourself to be then may be the scale you are using isn’t the right one. Sometimes instead of seeing your material gains in life, you should see that what you really have accomplished in your life. Below are some such success indicators which will give a new scale to gauge your true success in life.
You are not all about personal pronoun 'I'
Most of the successful people act like they own everything. It's them v/s the rest of the world, however, the true success is feeling empathy towards other person's dreams and his struggles and realizing that his dream however small or big is as important as our own dream and they deserve the very success they are working hard for.
You have a positive attitude
You are working hard for your own goals but not like some machine but hope and optimism are the fuel that drives you to work harder every day. Things go wrong when you work -- they are bound to-- but you no longer feel sorry for the mistakes but realize that positive and negative go hand in hand. One cannot exist without the other. You see the positive sides of the things and works to make things right. Your goal no longer lies in darkness.
You understand that failure is a phase which will pass
There is only one type of people who don’t fail in this life and they are who don't dare to try. Their life is full of perfection. God bless their perfect life but, we have our own life and we have to work on it. You are moving ahead when you know that failing in a task doesn’t mean that you are a failure. Learn from your failures and move on. To embrace true success you will have to embrace failure first.
Repeated failures often lead to frustration but it is the frustration that pushes your intellect to new boundaries where you think outside the box to find the solution you have been looking for.
You keep reality check on the problems
Bad things happen because it is a part of life. However, most of us lose our cool even on the small things such as accidentally locking the keys in a car. Now compare this to someone who hasn’t eaten in two days and doesn’t have a home to sleep. Getting angry or frustrated because you got a pass for a promotion is not as bad as not having food to eat or home to sleep. If you have the ability to keep a reality check on your problems or can keep things in perspective then you are successful.
You can ask for help when you need it
Refusing to ask for help when you are struggling too much is marked as a sign of emotional immaturity. Asking help means that you know that you don’t have to prove something to anyone. It also means that you accept your weakness and understands that sometimes success is a collective effort and not individual.
You don’t care what other people think about you
When you have something to prove to someone then you care about their thought process and conversely, you know are successful when you don’t care about their thought process because you are doing nothing to prove them. You are only being true to your principles, goal and your life. You know that other people opinions are just opinions and they can change their opinions anytime they want.
There is no sense in feeling failure because you don’t have your dream job, car or house because real success comes from when you feel complete and happy from the inside and not from the outside. Real success is not a slave of circumstances.